RIP Okwy Amajor - Onyegbula

April 18th 1978 - Dec 5th 2011

Dedicated Website



www.rememberingokwy.com

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I dont usually do this but I feel it in my heart to dedicate this thread to the Late Okwudiri (alias Okwy) Amajor Onyegbula - The Gorgeous, Graceful, Humble, Gentle 33yr old God-Fearing Beauty who passed last week on Monday Dec 5th 2011, due to a unforseen post pregnancy complications at 5 months old, leaving behind a husband, 4 siblings and her mom and dad Mr (Prof) and Mrs Amajor.
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Okwy will be buried this Saturday December 17th 2011 in Thornhill, Ontario. Viewing visitation as Okwy laid in church starts from 3-4pm and then Private Funeral Service for Family and friends  from 4pm until 6pm.

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I am not asking much, and you dont have to know one to necessarily pray for one, but wherever you are Saturday, please just remember to give a 5 mins silence moment of prayer as family and friends bade Okwy goodbye as she goes back home to the Lord and for the Lord to give strength to the very heavy hearted friends and family who will be present on Saturday bading her goodbye in the same church they had all gathered in happiness to celebrate her wedding just 14 months ago as seen in the 1st pic above. Pray for her husband whom she leaves behind - Chinedu Onyebula and ofcourse her family Prof and Mrs LC Amajor, all her siblings, cousins and close friends (The Ufodike's, The Onyegbulas, The Ihekwoabas, The Gbulies etc) - I will be praying for all of them on Saturday for needed strengths and comfort. For her parents, I know no parent parent has to bury their child and i cannot even imagine what Prof and his wife are going through during these hard times. This is just not fair at all but we give all to God. 

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I am still starring at the many of Okwys gorgeous gorgeous wedding photos from October 2009 (my fav is the one Chinedu was making her laugh so hysterically she threw her headback laughing) as well as her recent holiday photos from just 3 months ago (Sept 2011) with her 4 closest girl friends (or more like sisters)- (C.U, C.O, N.G and A. I) -they  ladies did everything together.

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Pray for God to give all her close family and friends the strength and comfort during these trying times when everyone including myself, is so confused asking the one big question "WHY" - "WHY LORD WHY" - IT IS SO NOT FAIR - ITS SO SO SO SO NOT FAIR AT ALL. I have known of many deaths in my day (including my own late dad many years ago) but Okwy's early demise hurt me so deeply because i feel it just wasnt her time, she was just starting life - but who am i to question God. Even me who wasnt as close to her like the many i know who did, is hurting so i can imagine who  those very close toher our hurting even more. As her good friend C.U (who was more like a sister to Okwy ) said to me "The hurt is so deep I cant describe - it hurst so bad - so so so bad and deep". And as i told her Time will heal. We have no choice but to leave it to God.

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Honestly, as old as i am I still dont understand death, i have a lot of questions and many "whys" - is it caused by God and if so why someone like Okwy who was such an angel - why are crack addicts and bad mothers blessed to be moms of plenty (sometimes 10 even) yet this young newly wed young lady who loved the Lord so much only tries for the first time and she is taken away due to complications. Lord forgive me if i am not suppose to ask WHY, but am just confused. I pray for wisdom and understanding to this part of life.
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My only consolation is knowing that Okwy was a God fearing woman who had already given her life to christ and i have no doubt she is in a better place now.

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Okwy was born on the 18th of April 1978 to Prof. & Mrs Amajor in Edmonton, Alberta Canada. After a few years in Canada, Okwy returned to Nigeria with her parents. Okwy attended University Demonstration Primary School, Uniport for her elementary school education and University Demonstration Secondary School for her secondary education. She returned to Canada in 1998 to pursue her tertiary education where she obtained a degree in management information systems from the University of Winnipeg, Manitoba in 2003.
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Okwy had a deep passion for people and always saw and looked for the best in everyone, which is probably the quality that allowed her to engage and connect with people in such a special way. She loved God so much and this was reflected in her personal life through the decisions she made and her general outlook of life.
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Until her passing, Okwy worked as a Business Analyst with Invesco Trimark, an investment management company located in North York, Toronto. She also worked previously as a Business Analyst with Sears Canada and Rogers Communications. She was also a certified SAP professional.
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Okwy's interests included traveling, and she visited different countries every year with her closest friends. She loved cooking and hosting people, and always looked for an opportunity to have people over to enjoy some of her new culinary discoveries. She loved children immensely, and always sought opportunities to get involved in charities focused on the well-being of children.
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Okwy is survived by her husband, Chinedu Onyegbula; parents, Prof. and Mrs L.C Amajor; and siblings, Uzoma, Nnamdi, Ubanna and Eberechi.
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She will never be forgotten as she's in our hearts forever.
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(ps: The one thing Okwy and I had in common is our love for African / Nollywood movies).

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Farewell Poem by Chinedu Onyegbula to his late wife Okwy
A beautiful life…
Okwy…

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So beautiful you are, like the glory of the morning sun
So calm, like the gentle breeze that blows on a midsummer night
So loving, unconditionally and unrestricted
So caring, like a nurturing mother's touch
So rare, like the most precious gem
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Though you lived a very short life
You have had an immensely deep impact on so many
Your soft smile; and beautiful heart
You warm countenance and sweet spirit
What a wonderful mother you were going to be.
We refuse to be grieved
Instead, we celebrate your life.
A beautiful life…
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Rest on in the bosom of the Almighty
Until that glorious day, when we shall meet again to part no more

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My last word to you all if you have someone (a friend or family) whom you love and havent spoken to lately (as our lifes are bombarded with technology communication and whatnot - please pick up the phone to call them this holidays and tell them you love them, or a simple "How Are you? - Say something to make them laugh - like i always do - I always like to leave that with people - make them laugh. Dont go through the woulda, coulda, shouldas after the death of a loved one.
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Okwy's death has taught me that as My new year resolution. i am going to fall back a notch on the tech stuff like texting, facebooking tweeting and learn to pick up the phone to call my friends and family at least once a month - I am going to go back to writing letters - pen on paper, cos you never know - that might be their last (or maybe my last). Sometimes it even takes something as simple as a smile to that stranger  or that beggar on the street whom you think looks too filthy to smile at, you dont even know that - that smile might make their day. Another resolution for me personally based on last sunday preaching at church is to make it a ritual to give every single day all 365 days of 2012 - every single day - to a poor or homeless person. Even if its small as $1 a day per person, I know I am doing my part. 

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I dedicate this farewell song to Okwy - Good Bye Okwy -  You are gone too soon, but I know Heaven's Got another Angel.

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